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I’m a straight white woman in my early 30s. In theory, I’ve always been into men of all races—but in practice, most…

Note: This article contains descriptions of childhood sexual abuse.

Let’s say my kink is edging and I edge myself for a few days leading up to a date. Is it my responsibility to tell…

I’m a gay guy in my late 40s with a straight sister in her early 50s. She’s been married for a bit over two decades…

Two weeks ago, a longtime reader challenged me to create a new sexual neologism. (Quickly for the pedants: You’re…

I am a 56-year-old heterosexual man, and I have lived with ALS for the past six years. I am either in a wheelchair…

Can I still be considered sex-positive if I personally do not have sex? I’ve never had sex or masturbated—all my…

I’m a 21-year-old woman, and I have an IUD. I’ve had sex with quite a few men, and one thing seems to be almost…

I’m an early-30s hetero woman in a monogamous relationship with my mid-30s hetero guy. We’ve been together 10 years,…

I’m a middle-aged man dating a younger guy. He wanted to be a “boy” to a Dom top daddy, and I was happy to oblige.…

I’m a 40-year-old guy with a 30-year-old girlfriend. We’ve been together a year, and I can see a future with her.…

I’m a 19-year-old bisexual woman really into orgasm denial and edging. With the recent Tumblr ban on all NSFW…

I’m a thirtysomething straight woman married for 16 years. Eighteen months ago, I met a man and there was an…

I’m a kinky single woman who keeps attracting the wrong men for me—specifically, submissive guys into face-sitting.…

Straight and married but not boring, and heading to my parents’ house for our first family Christmas since my…

I’m a 59-year-old man in good health. For basically my whole adult life, I’ve had this problem during intercourse…

I’m a 30-year-old, Asian American, hetero-flexible cis woman. I’m also newly diagnosed with bipolar II. I’m on…

I’m a recently divorced single mom and full-time student. I’m really beginning to hurt financially and have decided…

I’ve always wanted to tie girls up, but I can never convince a woman to let me. Lately, I’ve been exploring “bondage…

I’ve been spending a lot of time lately thinking about myself and my sexuality and my romantic self. I can log on…